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Woven Threads

I read this book that kind of struck me this week. It says, “Chains do not hold a marriage together. It’s threads. Hundreds of tiny threads that sow people together through the years.” Don’t you think there is a lot of truth in that?

 

I really like that, because what it does is give a lot of sacredness to the ordinary moments we share. Doesn’t have to be the big things; it’s just our daily life.

 

It’s not the big heavy chains of commitment. It’s those little threads, those memories we share that we weave together.

 

Having dinner together. Having date night. Taking a walk.

 

With our kids, all the experiences. Friend, consider the tiny threads that weave the two of you together today.

 

If you have a comment or question for Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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Melt Down

Marriage is like a long trip in a tiny rowboat.

 

Somebody said, “If one passenger starts to rock the boat, the other has to steady it. Otherwise, they’ll both go down to the bottom.”

 

Isn’t that true?

 

I really like that because we kinda have a rule, you can’t both melt down at the same time.

 

Which is sometimes a rule that is broken because when one person gets emotional it’s easy to fan that flame and get emotional yourself.

 

I know it.

 

But that’s a real gift you could give your spouse is if you can stay clam in the face of their anxiety or their anger.
It really does do a lot to bring help to them.

 

Friend talk about it in advance because that’s what will help you steady the boat when it gets rocked.

 

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Knowing Your Spouse

I’ve been on this kind of banana and peanut butter kick, haven’t I?

 

You have that—and your Lemon Sorbet. It’s so funny because as soon as I take for granted that I know exactly what you like, you change. You have this new thing, like the chocolate peanut butter ice cream or whatever it is.

 

There is something about that in marriage that we’re always in flux. We’re always changing and staying current with each other is the goal.

 

You can kind of get bored with each other if you take each other for granted and think, “Oh, I know you,” and make assumptions. The truth is we got to check in with each other, stay current, and really know our spouse.

 

Friend, think about that in your own marriage. Are you staying current today?

 

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Gifts of Love

Okay, I’m the first to admit it I am not a morning person. If it’s up to me, I’d get up at the crack of noon almost everyday.

 

That is so true about you. That’s why this is so fun for me. The other morning we had to get up super early for a responsibility. The alarm went off, and I was supposed to get up first. You turned to me and in your sleepy voice said, “If you don’t want to get up yet, I’ll stay in bed.”

 

It made sense at the time to me.

 

I knew in your sleepy voice you were trying to offer me that extraordinary move of getting up first so I could sleep in.

 

Sometimes a gift comes out that way. The intention is there it just doesn’t sound right. Friend, think about those gifts of love even when they don’t come out right. They can still be received with an open heart.

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Good News: Extreme Skydive Proposal

A skydiving enthusiast decided to pop the question to his girlfriend at 12,500 feet – but accidentally dropped the ring! Firefighter Brandon Strohbehn and partner Nicole, who live in Oceanside, California, USA, made the jump at Skydive San Diego. Nicole had no idea what was coming as the pair leapt from the plane. On the way down Brandon, who works for Orange County Fire Authority in Southern California, produced a ring. But disaster appeared to strike when it slipped from his grasp and plummeted through the air. Luckily though, it was all just part of his plan. The dropped ring was only a fake, with the real wedding band waiting for Nicole down on the ground, as friends and family cheered them on. Click here to see this adorable proposal!

Jumping to Conclusions

Hey friend, have you ever had that experience from your marriage where your spouse kinda jumps to conclusions about your motives and you’re immediately in the dog house when you really didn’t deserve to be there?

 

You had that experience recently, didn’t you?

 

And it was my fault.

 

You called to say you were running late to pick John up at the school bus stop and I thought just typical of you just pushed your schedule tried to do too much and you couldn’t get there in time.

 

I can understand that but in this case I really was following through and yet sometimes I do the same things to you.

 

We read motives in that aren’t there.

 

That is never healthy for a marriage and friend think about that in your own relationship, make sure you’re not reading motives that aren’t there

 

 

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Good News: Photographer Captures Tornado in Couple’s Wedding Pictures

Colleen Niska, a photographer in Saskatchewan, Canada, got the surprise of her career when a tornado made a surprise appearance in the background of a couple’s wedding photos. The couple was married in Saskatchewan on Saturday, and Niska shared the pictures on Facebook with this comment: “I’ve dreamed about a day like this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Could NOT wait to post these! Pretty sure this will only happen once in my lifetime!” The beautiful blue sky in the background is offset by a swirling cloud in the background, but the bride and groom walk blissfully along the road hand-in-hand, unaware of what’s behind them. Almost as soon as Niska published the pictures online, they went viral. Click here to view these amazing, perfectly timed photos!

Relationship Preparation

Our three-year-old and our eight year-old boys are preparing for something a little unique and special for them.

 

A very special honor—they are going to be Ring Bearers together, which they have never done. We’re in the process of getting them measurements for their little tuxes, and the parents are really prepared. We’re trying to coach them down that isle.

 

That reminds you of all of the preparation that goes into that day, that wedding ceremony. I can’t help but think sometimes are we investing as much into the relationship at the same time.

 

Sometimes that gets over looked, and that’s really the most valuable piece.

 

Friend, think about that in your own relationship. What are you doing to prepare, no matter your age or stage, for the days ahead?

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Good News: Bride Marries Days After Escaping Fire by Jumping from 3rd Story Window

A Colorado woman is just thankful she could walk down the aisle after she escaped a raging fire less than a week before her wedding by jumping from a third-story window. Lenise Ruff, 23, was married Saturday in Castle Rock, Colo., even after she suffered burns on her face and hands from the fire and her maid of honor broke two vertebrae in the fall. Ruff and her roommate, also her maid of honor, Marilyn Kruc, had been trapped by a fire in their Centennial, Colo., apartment building on Monday. Without other options, Ruff and Kruc had to jump from their third-floor apartment rather than risk remaining near the smoke and flames. In spite of the injuries, Ruff decided to go ahead with the wedding, even though she wasn’t sure whether Kruc would be able to attend. The day before the wedding Ruff talked to Kruc, who insisted she would be able to attend the ceremony no matter what. Click here for more on this wedding that beat the odds!

Clarification Can Go a Long Way

Shine.FM this is Dr. Les Parrott, and I’m Dr. Leslie Parrott, your Shine.FM relationship experts.

We had an engagement in Boston this week and we’re waiting at Logan Airport for the taxicab and I told the guy I need a taxicab that takes a credit card.

That’s right.

So he went down the line yelling that out in that great Boston accent.

“Card, card need somebody with a card.”

Yeah and I’m not from Boston so I said what is he talking about.

I said it’s as plane as day to me, I grew up there.

That’s when we need to clarify content it’s just another example of how valuable that is.

Especially in marriage.

It is so easy for me to jump to conclusions and I got to check in with you.

Yeah and so when you can’t quite understand what your spouse is saying, friend think about that, just a little bit of clarification can go a long way.

 

If you have a comment or question for Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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