Whenever we speak to a group of couples about conflict, somebody will eventually ask, “Well, how do you handle conflict in front of your kids?” This is such an important issue for married couples. I remember one time, we had a fight and our little 3 year old happened to observe us. He said to me afterward, “Mommy, did daddy put you in time out?” and I said, “Yes.” It kind of feels that way.
The key in understanding conflict in front of kids is not to avoid it because then they’ll grow up and think, “Oh, mom and dad never had a fight.” They have no example of how it’s resolved. The key is to find resolve in front of them. That will give them a sense of peace and let them know that conflict is okay when you can find that resolve and move forward.
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