Dear Dr. Bill,
I’m in the 9th grade, and I’m dealing with a bully at school. He is constantly trying to harass me by throwing me into a dumpster or locking me into a school locker. This guy is in my same grade, and I don’t know what to do. Do you have any ideas?
I’m sorry to hear this has been happening to you. If you haven’t talked to your parents about this yet, that’s the first thing you should do. Some kids are embarrassed to tell their parents when they are being harassed by a bully, but your mom and dad need to know.
They should contact the principal and let him or her know what’s going on. They should also insist that school deal with the bullying—immediately.
You should also go to a teacher or counselor that you trust and let them know what’s been happening. The best solution would be for the school to have an administrator or security person keep an eye on the bully and then catch him in the act. Who knows—he may be bullying other kids too.
Matt, bullies will often pick on kids who don’t have many friends. If that’s the case with you, get to work on meeting some new kids. You might join a campus club or service organization.
Some school counselors even run groups where kids get a chance to practice things like meeting new people and making friends. Kids who have even a few friends on campus and hang out in groups are a lot less likely to get picked on by bullies.
There’s also a website you can visit that will give you more ideas on dealing with this bully. It’s stopbullying.gov.
Thanks for writing, Matt.
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