SACKed Dec. 6, 2013

Happy Friday!  Make plans this weekend to drop by a nursing home with your kids and some goodies!  If you’re short on time, just leave the cookies, but if you have an hour or so, ask the staff which resident could use a hug and a smile!

Forgiveness

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MW2My husband is a police officer, and last December he was shot three times while responding to a bank robbery right before Christmas. It was a terrible experience, but God was with us through it all; the suspects were caught, and my husband is fine now. At the time, Matthew West’s song “Forgiveness” had just started to come on the radio. It really spoke to me every time I heard it – especially the lyric “Even when the jury and the judge say you’ve got a right to hold a grudge, it’s the whisper in your ear saying ‘set it free’.” We knew we had no choice but to forgive the robbers, even though they could have killed my husband. Last month, that song came on the radio when we were on the way to court for sentencing for one of the men. It really encouraged me to get in front of the court and forgive the robber, and tell him about Jesus. At the end of court, even though he got a 29 year prison term, we were able to speak to his family who thanked us.

That song really got us through that time, and we would love to speak to Matthew West to tell him how much we appreciated his encouraging words. So, if there’s a meet and greet or something where there’s a chance we could meet him, please let me know. Otherwise, I will try to wait for him after the show.

 

Shine.FM Top 20 – September 2013

1.    MATTHEW WEST/HELLO, MY NAME IS
2.    SIDEWALK PROPHETS/HELP ME FIND IT
3.    BUILDING 429/WE WON’T BE SHAKEN
4.    MANDISA/OVERCOMER
5.    BIG DADDY WEAVE/THE ONLY NAME
6.    MATT MAHER/LORD I NEED YOU
7.    NEWSBOYS/LIVE WITH ABANDON
8.    CHRIS TOMLIN/GOD’S GREAT DANCE FLOOR
9.    LOVE & THE OUTCOME/HE IS WITH US
10.  KRISTIAN STANFILL/THE LORD OUR GOD
11.  UNSPOKEN/LIFT MY LIFE UP
12.  STEVEN CURTIS CHAPMAN/LOVE TAKE ME OVER
13.  AARON SHUST/GOD OF BRILLIANT LIGHTS
14.  TOBY MAC/SPEAK LIFE
15.  JAMIE GRACE/BEAUTIFUL DAY
16.  RYAN STEVENSON/HOLDING NOTHING BACK
17.  LAURA STORY/I CAN JUST BE ME
18.  MATT REDMAN/YOUR GRACE FINDS ME
19.  JOSH WILSON/PUSHING NOTHING BACK
20.  CHRIS AUGUST/UNASHAMED OF YOU

Sentimental Journey

Here’s a conversation starter: “What’s the most sentimental object you have from an experience the two of you have shared together? And what makes it so?”

Well, it’s kind of funny because no one else would look at this object and think it’s meaningful, but the two of us. It’s a little, about two inches high, silver place card holder in the shape of some kind of bird from Paris. But, an evening I’ll never forget in our whole lives.

Yeah, we had one of those once in a lifetime trips. It was wonderful, and I see that little thing in our kitchen and I often think about the conversations and just the fun we had that evening together.

Yeah, and our home is filled with those treasures. They’re not valuable for any reason other than they remind us of our shared journey.

If you have a comment or question for the New Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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Difference Maker: The Bible League

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Bible League International supports the body of Christ wherever it is impoverished, persecuted or oppressed in more than 55 countries. With help from friends, Bible League International equips local Christians to plant Bibles, plant churches and share God’s love in the hardest, most hostile, most resource-poor places on earth. In the past 21 years, they have trained and equipped more than 2.5 million local Christians to lead millions to Christ, planted more than 58,000 churches, and discipled nearly 37 million people in or through Bible study.  They do this by providing Bibles and Scripture materials for churches and ministries to use in their evangelism and discipleship efforts, including an Easy-Read Bible that’s translated into many different languages.

Get to know Chicagoland Difference Makers Bible League International this month on The New Shine.FM!

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A Marriage Tune Up

Well one of the things we’ve long practiced with couples we’ve done premarriage couseling with is this thing called a Marriage Tune Up.

That’s right, just an ongoing way to check in with each other and do some work together that strengthens your marriage.

At certain points…three months after you get married…seven months after you get married…a little tune up.

Yeah, it acknowledges theres some predictable wear and tear just like on a car or whatever you’ve got that you can really deal with and prevent some hard times.

Right, and we’ve structured that into our own marraige. Three times a year we want a little tune up for the two of us or retreat to recharge our own batteries and our own marriage. The point is friend, to think about how you can give your marriage a systematic tune up.

If you have a comment or question for the New Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM

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Culture Update: Dating In Middle School & Legalized Marijuana

The majority of Americans believe pot should be legal.  According to a new poll from the Pew Research Center’s 52% of Americans now believe marijuana should be legalized.

Cultural opinion in favor of legalizing pot usage has grown quickly, with support for it jumping 11% in just three years.  Also, a decreasing number of Americans believe smoking marijuana is a moral issue.

The new poll shows just 32% believe it’s morally wrong, compared with 50% of Americans who thought that just seven years ago. And recent stories involving pot usage by celebrities such as Justin Bieber, Miley Cyrus and Lady Gaga haven’t provoked the outrage they might of in the past.

So what does the bible say about marijuana?  Well, although it doesn’t specifically address pot use, we can find some solid guidance in 1st Peter chapter 4.

That chapter says believers are to be “clear-minded and self-controlled.”  So encourage your kids that even though their friends may think there’s nothing wrong with smoking pot, God has a different perspective.

In other youth culture news, kids who begin dating in middle school are four times more likely to eventually drop out of school and twice as likely to use alcohol, marijuana and tobacco as their peers. They’re also more likely to struggle in their study skills.

This is according to new research from the University of Georgia. Study author Pamela Orpinas, a professor at the school’s College of Public Health, says one likely explanation for this is that these teens start dating early as part of an overall pattern of high-risk behaviors.

Orpinas says her research suggests that “dating should not be considered a rite of passage in middle school.”

I’m Bill Maier for Shine.FM.

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How To Explain To Your Child That They Were Adopted

Dear Dr. Bill,

Three years ago my husband and I adopted a beautiful baby girl from our niece who lives in another state.  We are considering moving to that part of the country where this niece lives and we are going to have more contact with her and other family members who know about the adoption.  How should we begin to talk to our daughter about this?

–Susan

Dear Susan,

It’s a good idea to begin telling your daughter that she was adopted from a young age.  Some parents avoid discussing the issue with their kids because it makes them uncomfortable.  Years go by and then they are faced with telling an older child something they have kept secret.  This can undermine the child’s sense of security, and may result in feelings of rejection and betrayal.

Since she’s only 3, tell your daughter about her adoption using age-appropriate language, and make sure you frame it in positive way.

You can begin by reaffirming how special she is, both to God and to mommy and daddy.  Let her know that she is so special that mommy and daddy chose her over all of the other children in the world.

When she’s a bit older, perhaps 4 or 5, you can explain the difference between a biological parent and an adoptive parent.  Let her know that she actually had two different mommies.

Her first mommy took care of her when she was very, very tiny, inside of her tummy.  Then you brought her home from the hospital after she was born to live with you, because she was so extra special.

When you move back to the area where your niece lives, it can be positive for your daughter to get to know her birth mother-explaining to her that your niece was her “tummy mommy.”   However, in the event that your niece has personal or family problems, you’ll need to navigate that relationship carefully.

There’s an excellent book that helps kids understand adoption.  It’s called “Adopted and Loved Forever” by Annette Dellinger.

Thanks for writing Susan.  If you have a question for me about family issues or Christian living, click on the “Questions” tab on the Family Expert page.

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De-Clutter Your Kitchen

Don’t save all of your spring cleaning till spring!  Start today by decluttering your kitchen.  Have a bread maker you never use?  Do you have too many cheese slicers to count?  If so, donate them to an organization or thrift store and free up some space your kitchen.  In today’s Home School lesson you’ll get help deciding what to keep and what to part ways with.  Happy sifting!

Good News Story: It Starts With a Seed

We love hearing stories of inspiring kids!  It started with a tiny cabbage seedling that Katie, a third grader in South Carolina, took home and tended until it grew to 40 pounds!  Her parents always reminded her and her younger brother that they were lucky to have food on their table every night.  So Katie decided to donate that cabbage to a local soup kitchen. Now, Katie is 11, and has several gardens and has donated 2 tons of fresh produce to organizations that serve people in need!  She says her goal is to eliminate hunger completely.  Watch her story here.