Adult Education

Good News: 911 Dispatcher Honored

 

New York EMT dispatcher Joann got a call from a very ill Mary, and rescuers rushed to the woman’s residence at East 71st Street. But she was not there.  While the response team was searching for her, Joann struggled to communicate with Mary.  Joann was asking her for her location, but she couldn’t understand what Mary was saying because she was slurring and slipping near the edge of consciousness.  She was having a stroke.  With the help of Verizon and the NYPD, firefighters checked several nearby addresses, but none proved to be right. Rescuers finally found Mary — 8 hours later — at an East 72nd Street residence, where she had been working as a housekeeper.  Mary was rushed to the hospital, and is expected to survive because of the dedication of Joann.  Joann has now been honored by her captain.  Read more about this miraculous story here.

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Put Down That Newspaper

There’s a fundamental parenting principal that certainly applys to marriage. It is to never read the paper in front of your face, but instead to put it on the table and to figuratively as well as literally invite the people around you, certaintly your children, but also your spouse into those events with you.

It really is a rich thing whenever you let people know. It’s sort of opening a window and letting them know how your responding and processing current events and things that are happening in the world and things in your own life and let them be involved in that.

Well friend, whether your a newshound or not, make sure you talk about what’s going on in the world together. It will enrich your life as well as your relationship.

If you have a comment or question for the New Shine.FM relationship experts Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, visit the relationships experts page at Shine.FM.

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“Help—My Two Older Sons Won’t Stop Picking On Their Younger Brother!”

Dear Dr. Bill,

We have 3 sons, ages 11, 10, and 8. My two older boys often pick on their younger brother.  I intervene whenever I can, but my youngest is starting to play victim.  He says he doesn’t feel loved by his brothers.  I understand that some of this pecking order stuff happens but I’m growing concerned.  What do you suggest?

–Joy

Dear Joy,

Every parent with more than one child deals with sibling rivalry at some point during the parenting years.

It’s up to you as a parent to nip this stuff in the bud.  You mentioned that you intervene when you can, you didn’t say what your husband does.

Dads have a powerful influence on their sons, for good or bad.  Boys tend to imitate their father’s behavior, including how he treats others.  Does your husband model patience, kindness, and respect in his relationship with you and with the boys?

Does he set firm limits on the boys’ behavior, implementing firm consequences when the older boys pick on their little brother?  If not, he’s going to need to step up to the plate.

If your husband is doing these things, the issue may be that the older boys feel they need to compete for your time and affection.   Picking on their little brother may be their way of saying “I want you to pay more attention to me.”

One way to solve this problem is to make sure you and your husband schedule one-on-one time with each of the boys at least once a week.  This could involve something as simple as a trip to the store or a walk around the neighborhood.

If your older boys are acting out because they’re feeling neglected, this individual time with them may make a big difference.

Thanks for writing Joy.  If you have a question for me about family issues or Christian living, click the “Questions” link on the Family Expert page.

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