3 things-mom & kids final

3 things to say to help your parenting

It’s Garrett from Shine Afternoons and a new study on families says that if you use these statements while parenting your kids it will help improve your children’s behavior.

They are:
“Do you need a hug?”
“Do you want to talk about it?”
“I’m SO happy to see you?”

What is something you say to your kiddos to help improve their behavior?

foreclosure

Good News: One Town’s Hero

Tom Roeser is on a one-man mission to save Carpentersville, Ill., from falling into the fate of so many post-industrial Midwestern towns, where neighborhoods have become littered with vacant, foreclosed homes.  Over the past several years, the 60-year-old president and co-owner of the town’s largest employer, a maker of switches and communications gear called Otto Engineering, has bought 193 foreclosed homes, completely rehabilitated them and is either selling or renting them at a discount to local residents.  He’s making a huge difference and is helping keep up the morale of the town.  Read all about his ventures here.

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Gaming Addict

A Young Wife Writes To Dr. Bill About Her Husband’s Computer Game Addiction

Dear Dr. Bill,

 

My husband and I have been married for a year and half and we’re expecting our first child in a few months.  I’m concerned about his fascination with computer games — especially the ones that involve a lot of battles and war.  Every night when he comes home from work, he goes straight to the computer and will play these games until 1 or 2 o’clock in the morning.

 

I’ve tried talking to him about the amount of time he spends gaming but he doesn’t seem to care.  I’ll admit that I feel cheated since I don’t get to spend much time with him during the day.  But now that the birth of our baby is approaching, I’m worried that our family will end up being 2nd place to a computer game.  What should I do?

Heather, computer game addiction is becoming a real problem in many families, and obviously it’s impacting yours.

Most people consider addiction to be related to substances like drugs or alcohol. In reality, addiction can consist of anything that becomes such a priority to a person that he or she is willing to neglect friends, family, responsibilities–even their physical health in order to pursue it.

It may sound extreme, but given your description, your husband may require a formal intervention, such as the type used in dealing with an alcoholic. I’d suggest you consult with a licensed Christian counselor in your area, one who has experience in dealing with addictive behavior.

In a best case scenario, your husband will admit he has a problem and be willing to get help for his addiction. But he may also react defensively and deny that there’s anything wrong with his behavior. In that case you’ll need to make some tough choices about what to do next.

Regardless of what course of action you take, you’ll need the support of friends, family, and a caring therapist.

Thanks for writing Heather.  If you have a question for me about family issues or Christian living, just click the “Questions” link on the Family Expert page.

 
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