cheetah

Good News: Comfort For Cats

I love fun animal stories!  This one is great.  Cheetahs are the fastest mammals in the world, but as it turns out, they are also the world’s biggest scaredy-cats!  So much so that they don’t breed easily and are in danger of going extinct.  In a fun little twisted love story, some zoos are introducing companion dogs to clam the cats.  They serve as playmates and provide the cats with guidance.  Read the full “tail” here.

cabin fever

Get Outta The Funk

Raise your hand if you’re tired of winter!  Me too!  If you’re feeling bummed, sluggish, or even cranky, enjoy this unusual list of cabin fever therapies to get you back into the swing of things.  Only a few days left till spring!  Check out Lisa’s Home School for some tips.

Aunt with Teen

Teenage Niece & Her Risky Behavior

Dear Dr. Bill — I am facing a dilemma over my 17-year-old niece.  She recently confided to me about drinking with her friends.  She didn’t get drunk, only a little “buzzed.”  However, she’s not remorseful at all and continues to hang around with the same crowd.

I’m debating whether or not I should tell my sister about it.  I don’t want to break the trust my niece has placed in me — because I may have the opportunity to guide her and be a positive influence her life.  But at the same time, I don’t want to keep secrets from her mom.  What should I do?

–Melissa

Dear Melissa,

I understand your dilemma.  You want to maintain trust with your niece, but at same time, you feel it’s important for her parents to be aware that she has been involved in risky behavior.

Perhaps the most important aspect of this situation is that your niece has expressed no remorse over her drinking and continues to socialize with the same friends.  You’re right to assume that things will only get worse, not better.

Here’s what I’d suggest.  Talk to your niece and reaffirm your love for her.  Tell her that you want the best for her in life, and that you are very concerned about the crowd she is hanging out with.  Let her know that if she continues to socialize with this group, you fear for her future.

Ask her if she has told her parents about the drinking incident.  Tell her you believe it’s vital that she let them know what happened, and that she needs to promise them that it won’t happen again. Let her know that if she doesn’t tell them, you will—not to “rat” on her, but because you love both her and her parents.

Chances are she won’t like this ultimatum, but stick to your guns.  Give her a firm deadline to confess the drinking to her parents—within the next two weeks.  Then follow up with your sister to make sure she has followed through.

Thanks for writing, Melissa.  If you have a question for me about family issues or Christian living, click the “Questions” link on the Family Expert page.

 
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