Shine.FM Top 20 – October 2012

  1. tobyMac – Me Without You
  2. Big Daddy Weave – Redeemed
  3. Needtobreathe – Keep Your Eyes Open
  4. Brandon Heath – Jesus In Disguise
  5. Kristian Stanfill – One Thing Remains
  6. Newsboys – Your Love Never Fails
  7. MercyMe – You Are I Am
  8. Plumb – Need Your Now
  9. Matt Redman – 10,000 Reasons
  10. Matthew West – Forgiveness
  11. Kutless – Even If
  12. Citizen Way – Should’ve Been Me
  13. Third Day – I Need A Miracle
  14. Unspoken – Who You Are
  15. Tenth Avenue North – Losing
  16. Sanctus Real – Promise
  17. Jason Grey – Good To Be Alive
  18. Casting Crowns – Already There
  19. Chris Tomlin – Whom Shall I Fear
  20. Jeremy Camp – Reckless

Our Hearts Here Release New Album “Shine On”

Jesusfreakhideout–      Mon, 06/11/2012 – 5:40pm

6.11.12 – Released last week…


ate           Time Event           Location
            10/13/12             7:00 pm The Light For The Lost Boy Tour with ANDREW PETESON and special guest CALEB             Judson University
            10/14/12             6:30 pm The Light For The Lost Boy Tour with ANDREW PETESON and special guest CALEB             Faith Church
            10/26/12             7:00 pm Francesca Battistelli & Sidewalk Prophets (Bourbonnais, IL)             Olivet Nazarene University, Centennial Chapel
            11/4/12             7:00 pm Abandon, Anthem Lights & Finding Favour Concert             Suncrest Christian Church
            11/5/12             8:00 am The Music Boat (Grand Turk Island)

Dr. Bill tells us about the link between too much TV and childhood obesity.

A recent study says mounting research shows that a child’s media use may be directly linked to their body weight.


Pediatrician Dr. Sue Hubbard reports on child health issues for the Chicago Tribune, and she points out that the American Academy of Pediatrics has released a new policy statement on this issue.

Titled “Children, Adolescents, Obesity and the Media” the AAP warns “American society couldn’t do a worse job at the moment of keeping children fit and healthy – too much TV, too many food ads, not enough exercise, and not enough sleep.”
The pediatric group reiterates that parents need to be paying attention to the amount of “screen” time their children get daily.

Total non-educational screen time should be no more than 2 hours per day. This limit should also be enforced in child care centers, after-school programs and community centers.
Dr. Hubbard points out that the many ads on the air for junk food and fast food only increase a child’s desire for these products.  She says “It’s easy to keep your child from buying Cocoa Puffs or Fruit Loops when they’ve never seen cute ads for these sugary cereals.”
Children who are allowed to stay up late watching TV are not only exposed to numerous ads, but at the same time don’t get enough sleep, and the combination puts them at greater risk for childhood obesity.

By the way, researchers say that kids see 5,000 to 10,000 food ads per year, most of them for junk food and fast food.

To read more about the new study and the AAP’s recommendations, go to

A mom writes “Help—my teenage sons are fighting over the same girl!”

Dear Dr. Bill,


We have two sons, ages 16 and 17.  Our younger son has started a “friendship” with a girl that his older brother has liked for a year.  The 17-year-old now accuses his brother of stealing all his friends and says he hates him.  The 16-year-old argues nobody can choose his friends for him, and he could care less what his older brother thinks.


Because our older son isn’t as outgoing as his younger brother, this kind of thing has happened before, but with male friends.  Because our boys are so close in age, they’re always going to have mutual friends.  So what should we do?  Do we restrict our 16-year-old’s access to this girl?  Or do we tell our 17-year-old to GROW UP and live with it?




Dear Karen,


This is a great opportunity for BOTH your sons to learn to grow up a bit.  They’ve allowed selfishness and jealousy to interfere with their relationship and cause tension in the family.


Your 17-year old needs to stop blaming and take responsibility for his own friendships.  Meanwhile, your 16-year-old needs to start treating his brother with more kindness and respect.


Start by re-affirming your love for each of them, but tell them that you’re very disappointed with their behavior.


Let them know that their self-centered attitudes are going to need to change, and that you’re going to assist them with that change by implementing some firm consequences.  Tell them that every time they display selfish attitudes or behavior, there will be a loss of a certain privilege.   If it’s clear that both boys are in the wrong, both of them should experience the consequences.


As far as the dispute over the girl goes, her feelings are her own, and ultimately she’ll be the one to decide if she likes either of the boys.  Your role is to set clear guidelines on dating and relationships, and to make sure both of your sons treat the girl with respect.

Could a genetically engineered cow help babies with milk allergies?

Is your baby allergic to milk? A genetically engineered cow from New Zealand may be here to help.

According to CBS, scientists at a government-owned research facility have bred a cow that does not produce a protein known to cause milk allergies in many children.

Dr. Stefan Wagner, a scientist at AgResearch in New Zealand, says

“We were successful in greatly reducing the amount of BLG, a milk whey protein which can cause allergic reactions,”

2-3% percent of infants are allergic to cow’s milk, and BLG allergies make up a large part of that percentage.”

Dr. Wagner hopes the research could lead to other genetically modified livestock, such as animals with better disease resistance.

While the milk may help many infants and children, it only addresses allergies due to BLG protein, which many children grow out of by the time they turn 3. The milk also won’t help anyone with lactose intolerance, since that is caused by lacking an enzyme that breaks down the sugar in milk.

It’s also too early to even know if the milk is safe for human consumption.

AgResearch says the process of producing the cows is expensive, so while it is “feasible” to engineer dairy cattle without BLG, initial research will only be limited to a few animals.

Several scientists expressed caution over the application of the new findings.

Dr. R. Michael Roberts at the University of Missouri-Columbia told, “There would be a long way to go from having a cow on the ground to produce this desirable milk, getting it approved, and having it accepted by the population as a substitute for regular cow’s milk.”

A veteran movie producer worries about the impact of violent movies on children.

Why do parents DO these things?


You may have heard me mention that there are now multiple research studies showing the negative impact that violent media can have on kids.  Well, it seems like some parents either aren’t aware of this—or simply don’t care.


And now a veteran movie producer wants to do something about it.


Stephen Simon is a producer whose film credits include What Dreams May Come and Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure.


He says he recently went to a movie in Portland Oregon and was horrified when he noticed a mother had brought her young son to a showing of the R-rated film End of Watch.


Mr. Simon says “It was very violent and very profane from frame one. There were people getting beat up and shot.” “I thought this is child abuse.”


Simon was so upset by the woman’s choice that he confronted her and called Child Protective Services.


He says “The woman [at CPS] told me on the phone I was absolutely right and this was a dreadful thing to do.  But she said there was nothing they could do about it and suggested I talk to the theater manager.”


Simon told United Press International that he’s now calling theater owners to ask them to have their ticket sellers talk to parents about R-rated films’ content when they attempt to take young children in with them.


He says, “in the box office, they should ask if parents are aware the movie has very violent or profane content.”


Unfortunately there are many parents who simply won’t care.  If they want to see a violent, R-rated movie and don’t want to pay for babysitter, they’ll simply take their child with them.

A dad asks Dr. Bill how he can help his daughter learn about the true purpose of prayer.

Dear Dr. Bill,

I’ve taught my 7-year-old daughter to use prayer in her life.  I want her to understand that prayer can help us keep close to God and that we talk to God whenever we need answers.

But recently I discovered that my little girl is using prayer for everything — including things like her wish to go to the movies or win a game she’s playing with her friends!  I’ve tried to explain to her about praying with a pure heart.  I don’t want to discourage her faith, but at the same time I don’t want her to misuse prayer.  What do you suggest I say to her?


Dear Brian,

That’s a great question.  I appreciate your dedication to teaching your child an accurate, biblical view of prayer.

It’s important to realize that at 7, your daughter isn’t able to comprehend some of the nuances of prayer that adults are able to grasp.  In fact, many adults have an immature understanding of prayer themselves, viewing God as some sort of “cosmic vending machine” who will dispense blessings to us if we simply ask him.

I’d encourage you not to criticize your daughter for her misapplication of prayer.  Instead, praise her for making prayer a central part of her life. Explain to her that one of the main purposes of prayer is to conform us to the image of Christ, not to get the things that we want.

It might be helpful for you to read the Lord’s Prayer with your daughter, as found in Matthew, chapter 6.  Jesus provided that prayer as a model for us, teaching us how to pray and what to pray for.

By the way, author Eugene Peterson has written an illustrated children’s book that will help your daughter learn how Jesus used prayer.  It’s entitled “My First Message: Stories of Jesus.”

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